Authenticity-living in the moment with conviction and confidence and staying true to yourself.
I have been in a walk with Authenticity over the last few years. I can see how when we do not move from our truth, the distortions wreak havoc on us and everyone around us. We suffer because we try to put ourselves away and chameleon ourselves to suit those around us and those that want to meet us have no way of knowing how to find us.
I have spent most of my life people pleasing. I don't think I am alone in this fruitless endeavor. It's like telling a lie and then constantly trying to remember what you said to make sure your lie is never discovered. It takes tremendous effort and is a complete waste of energy. You will never be liked by everyone and if you have to change for anyone's approval, they do not like YOU anyway. At this point in my life, the need to please is falling away like the veils in the dance of 7 veils in my favorite Tom Robbins book. I am surprised by how exposed I feel stripping away these useless parts of me, but also pleased by the dance. I am happy to be the current me, because that is authentically who I am. It has taken me years to get to this place. Hopefully, my words will help someone else who needs them.